Unfortunately technology has done nothing but making dating easier and easier for us. While you might be questioning why that’s unfortunate, think about the last time you used technology while you were dating. More likely than not it got you some awkward online dates or it got you in trouble while you were texting that cute girl from work. What’s worse than either of those are dating apps. Dating apps are very quick little programs that let you shop for someone to “date”. In actuality you’re going to have an awkward hookup and call it a day. You don’t need something like that to help you date, and here’s why.
Shopping for a partner on your phone is weird. You get this whole slew of women who you judge almost immediately on appearance only. At least in real life you get to see how she really looks. On an app she can pick what she puts up and can mess with the photos before actually posting them. When you get to shop around like this you also start to see women as objects. They’re people, and this app doesn’t give them that right.
It’s a Lie
These profiles may have an about me section, but what she chooses to write could be complete crap. It could be made up ramblings to go along with her altered photos and fake poses. There are tons of tricks to make a picture look better, tricks that she can use to look very different from herself. While there’s nothing wrong with a woman looking different than the societal norm of beauty, there is something wrong about trying to hide that from a future partner. Beyond her lying about herself, you’re also lying to yourself. You do the same things that she’s doing, but even more you’re lying to your brain. Seeing these attractive faces make you feel good, sure, but when you match up with someone you get a fake ego boost. This isn’t healthy and makes it harder to do in real life.
Having all of these choices leaves a guy looking for more. Sure, this woman is pretty, but you do like different foods sometimes. Why settle for someone that doesn’t like Chinese food when you can just wait a little while and another woman pops up on your screen. With apps like Tinder you don’t even have to wait. You literally just swipe left and the mediocre woman is gone. A thought pattern like this doesn’t create any real connection or desire to connect to the women that you’re seeing.
It’s Probably Not Going to Happen
These apps are nice when you’re bored on a rainy day, but if you’re truly looking to meet someone you’re just not going to do it here. Apps like this are like video games; you play them, you chat, you find people that you like occasionally, but you never really get serious with it. Meeting up and finding the one over a dating app probably isn’t in the cards.